The only secret you need to know to catch or keep the man of you dreams.
Are you tired of all the books that tell you they have the secrets to attracting and keeping a mate. Have you tried everything yet you still have trouble in relationships. Well here is the big secret…..

You must quit trying- quit reading all the bs on what you need to do, be. Become or change in order to get a man and keep him. My advice is don’t change anything, be who you are, stop trying so hard, the fact that you are on this website is proof that you are focusing your energy on keeping or catching a man instead of focusing on what brings you happiness in your life. The minute you make that shift and begin to focus on you- guess what happens- so will men, you are no longer needy, you are no longer requiring a man to fulfill you, or bring you happiness you are cultivating it in your own life and men will notice. Your potential boyfriend, boyfriend, fiancé or spouse will instantly find you more attractive because you are cultivating and creating happiness in your own life. You will no longer be seen as you once were. Something magical happens when we get excited about our own life. It turns men on- they like independent, confident, happy women, who don’t NEED them. This is the only secret you need to know., Forget all the other Bull shit. Lose weight, dress nice, learn how to flirt, listen to your man, cling on his every word, admire him apprectiate him, etc. etc. etc. It is all a scam to get women to jump through hoops to please a man- probably advice written by a man. Hell really, have you thought about why you need one in the first place. When you get one, you are always questioning – does he love me, does he find me attractive, is he looking at that other chic- does he think she is prettier than me, will he cheat, why isn’t he being affectionate, did I do something wrong, could I do something better, STOP!!!! Who needs all the stress, quit worrying, focus on yourself even if you already have the man you want sit back and watch your man do back flips to please you. Every other EBOOK out there with all there SECRETS- who needs him this is the only secret you will ever need to know. You may be asking yourself who am I and how do I know this. Well I have been in your shoes. I have read every book on the market, jumped through hoops to get the attention I felt I needed from men, and guess what it wasn’t until I started giving myself that attention that men started to notice me. I am now happily married and I have a man that I love. But guess what he is not the be all and end all of me- he is a great addition but I have a full life that I love with or without him. Who would have thought you don’t have to be a good cook, a perfect housekeeper, or a super model. get the relationships you desire. Just be you, and make yourself happy!

Plato said “the life that is unexamined is not worth living.” In todays busy world how many people slow down long enough to stop and examine their life and how they are living. If we took a regular appraisal of our lives, we would identify many areas in which we could improve and begin to work on ourselves to become better people and create a better life. Isn’t that our goal anyway to be as happy and as productive as we can? So why do we fail to take the necessary steps to creating that life. Why do we continue to go through the motions without stopping to see what is causing the waves? How can one expect to have their best life- if they don’t introspect? I have always been one to attempt to do inner work to improve myself. Yet my entire family thinks I’m a freak. I only have a short time on this planet and I want it to be as good as I can make it. I want it to be better than good. I want it to be a life that brings me continuous joy, happiness, awe, inspiration, and love. Why should I strive for anything less? I think most people feel that their life is basically out of their hands- they don’t feel in control of what happens to them, so they just let things happen. Yes there are many factors in our life that we cannot control but what we can control is how we respond. As the old saying goes “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Besides being able to control how we respond, how we think, and how we feel. We do have more control over the events and circumstances in our lives than we realize. Many of the choices we made yesterday are dictating the terms of our life today. If we practice the art of conscious choice making, where we contemplate our choices/decisions and options before acting, then the results we see in our life will look very different. If you ask yourself this one simple question before making a choice or decision, “Is this good for me and all concerned?” before long the fruit of your choices will be very different and the life you desire will begin to show up. So slow down, stop, look inward, ask yourself the tough questions, be honest with yourself, work on making changes, work on making better choices. It can make a difference and YOU are worth it!

Parenting

I believe that upon the news of pregnancy, every expectant mother and father should be required to take state mandated course on parenting. After all parenting is the most challenging task known to man and the quality of the parenting we do affects the very core of our nation. Parenting is difficult even for the most dedicated mother or father. If you throw in other factors such as teen mothers, single mothers or fathers, marital problems, and all the other many problems our society faces you have a recipe for disaster. I believe we should even take it a step further. We should start classes at the middle school level on parenting. Not just pregnancy prevention but in the event you are ever a parent and which most of us will be at some point you will have some very good information to take with you on the path. I’m not talking about caring for the physical needs of the child. That is pretty simple and most people will do that. I am talking about caring for the emotional needs of the child. Like, discipline, self esteem, love, all of the things that create good humans, and with the lack of, creates seriously messed up humans. I think most people want to be good parents they just don’t know how. They parent the way they were parented or they just wing it. There is no real plan in place for how to deal with the myriad of situations parents face. Let’s face it, we have the information on what works and what doesn’t why don’t we shove it down peoples throats. Think of the impact this would have on society over time. Children that aren’t so screwed up- with morals, values, discipline. Where might our nation go? The future of our nation could change if we all just learned how to be a parent!

Today is Sunday February 22nd. I have been reading a book entitled the Passion Test. It is designed to help you identify your passions in life so that you may start to live a life that is in line with your passions. So far I have identified my passions as follows. I will be stating these in present tense as if they were already in my life. This is supposed to assist the all creating force in bringing about my desires faster. First, I am living and working in a quiet, stress free environment, one where I can read, learn and grow spiritually. My job is one where I can connect with the divine on a regular basis and it is a job where I am prosperous spiritually and financially. I live in a comfortable home, where my bedrooom is my sanctuary. I can relax and meditate and access the divine on a regular basis. Part of my job and my leisure life allows me to meet enlightened people and spiritual masters. I am able to learn from them and cultivate their traits in my own life. I am a master in the making. I am able to impart knowledge and wisdom in the lives of others to help them create the life of their dreams. I am an encourager of all people. I am peace. I am a magnet and people are drawn to me.
I have a successful marriage, full of passion, deep love, deep respect, and deep committment. My husband and I truly adore one another. Our marriage lasts as long as our lives on this planet and our spiritual connections lasts through eternity. I am a loving, understanding, and committed mother. I am an example for my kids. The look up to me and respect me and strive to be like me. I am committed to taking care of my body. I am healthy, trim and tone. I look better than I ever have. I look 20 years younger than my numerical age. People always comment on how healthy, vibrant and beautiful I am- inside and out. I meditate daily for at least 30 minutes, focusing on my passions, to assist in their quick creation into my life. I am unfearful of any challenge, loss, or any other problem that life may present. I never let fear take over my thoughts. I know that everything is in perfect order and that everything is and will always be ok. Everything that I need to cultivate the life of my dreams steadily and readily shows up in my life. Synchronistic events are happening on a daily basis. I am in awe of God and thankful for everything that appears. I live in complete peace, bliss and happiness everyday of my life. Thank you God, AMEN!

Today is Christmas Eve, and my two year wedding anniversary. With all of the hustle and bustle of shopping I have barely slowed down to realize the importance of either day. Today is the day when one of the greatest men of all times was born Jesus brought hope in to the world. He healed the sick, made the blind to see, and the lame to walk. What a miracle to have lived in that time and been able to witnesss such happenings. Do you think miracles such as these occur in todays world, where we seem to have forgotten Jesus and all that he stood for? I believe if we look hard of enough we will find the same miracles occuring everyday in our lives. We just don't recognize them as miracles. We call them amazing coincindences or chalk them up to something other than what they are or worse we don't even notice them at all. Miracles are all around us. Have you ever stopped to look at the people in your life and realize what miracles they are. The grandmother who loves her grandchildren in a way that a younger parent can't. The wisdom she has gained over decades of raising her own kids and how she is able to gracefully pass that wisdom on to her children as time passes. How about the miracle of a spouse. The person that stands by you no matter what. The person that helps you pick up the pieces when everything seems to be falling in around you. The person that encourages you when you need it most. The person that provides security and stability in the life of your family. Aren't these people, in fact, miracles also? Maybe they never made the blind to see but they have made you see by providing a clearer a vision of who you are and who you can be. They are the fabric of your life. Wouldn't we be blind without many of the people in our lives who impact us everyday? I would be more than blind without my mother, father, husband and children. Each of them has uniquely brought my path into focus and helped to create the person that is me. I am surrounded by miracles everyday!

I have had the opportunity to read "Ask and it is Given," by Esther and Jerry Hicks. This book gives amazing insight into the law of attraction. It states that whatever you think about expands which is not new concept for newagers, but it teaches you how to change your predominant thought patterns into what they call downstream instead of upstream thoughts so that you may more effectively attract that which you want in your life. In other words if you can't completely let go of thougth patterns that you have held for so long, you can start by thinking thoughts that are a little more in line with where you want to be. For example, if you think that you need more money and you think that you don't have enough money, it may be hard for you to polarize that thought by saying that I have plenty of money because it is so far from where you have been so long. However, you may start with small downstream thoughts like appreciating the small things in your life like the great meal that you just purchased or the fact that you were able to pay some small bills previously that week. Start small and expand and expand and expand until your thoughts are completely downstream and you can say with full belief "I have plenty."

How do we stay motivated in a job we aren't content with? Is it even possible? Are all people unhappy with what they do on a certain level? Do we all dread going to work on Monday? Do we all dread going back to work after a vacation? Is that normal? Should we be excited to go back to work? I hear that some people love what they do so much that they jump out of bed in the morning eager to go to work. I wish I could find that kind of passion in my work or find work that makes me that passionate! I don't expect to be happy and content all of the time in my work but since I do spend 65% of my life at work or at some work related activity I would like to be content at least 80% of the time. I've read dozens of articles on how to find your passion but I still dont' know what I am passionate about. My dream now would just be to be a stay at home mom and wife. Taking care of my family, my home and myself would be a dream come true!